Why should you care about grounding? Grounding is a sense of being rooted to the here and now, in your zone. It is also the first thing I tell people to do when they ask how to cast an effective spell. “But Spice, I am doing a spell because I want what I want, when I want it! Being present and grounded and stuff seems like sooooo much work!” You have the gratification delaying ability of a puppy, but I totally respect what you’re saying. When most people choose to do the spell thing, they have a goal in mind: get a mate, more money, tell some coworker with halitosis to back off, stop someone from gossiping… The list goes on ad infinitum. If it grills your cheese, there’s a spell for that. No matter what the spell caster’s intent was, they felt using energy was their most viable option. Their desire was not going to manifest any other way than to ask The Goddess, The Universe, God, or some random fleet of farting angels for help. That’s great. Ride that big, red wave. However, I would like you to consider this: by doing a spell, you are running a ton of energy through your space and your chakras, then sending it around a situation to make things more favorable to you. That’s the metaphysical equivalent of plugging a light into a socket and asking it to illuminate your space. In order to make that light work, the plug and socket need to work, there needs to be a light bulb, the lamp needs to be functional, and energy needs to be grounded. If your body, mind, and spirit are the house in this analogy, keeping yourself grounded helps prevent you from combusting or other electrical problems.
What does NOT being grounded feel like? In a word, like crap. Have you ever gone through a stage where you felt unfocused, fuzzy, randomly grumpy, and unable to make anything happen in your life? Could be a grounding issue. Other signs that your grounding is off include: dizziness, being overly sensitive to things that don’t ordinarily bother you, constant daydreaming, feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated at all times, hyperawareness, random bouts of confusion, and strange cravings. I’ve also experienced grounding issues as a general sense of anxiety and negativity all around me.
“Gosh, Spice, that sounds like what happens when my diabetes/hypoglycemia/food sensitivities/blood pressure/colitis/other random health condition flares up. How do I know it’s really a grounding problem?” Elementary, dear reader. Elementary. Poorly managed illnesses, physical injuries, physical exhaustion, and random ailments can—and often will—mess up your grounding. Therefore, I suggest you deal with the physical root of these symptoms as well as the spiritual. While we’re on the topic, emotional exhaustion, depression, anxiety, mania, grief, or any emotional upset or mental illness can lead to a lack of grounding. In fact, grounding techniques are often recommended for individuals with anxiety disorders, PTSD, and borderline personality disorder. I can help you with your spiritual fitness, but I’m not a doctor or a shrink. Before starting any spell, tend to your mental and physical needs. Casting a spell when in a less than grounded state will make you—and possibly the spell—less effective.
How can you make changes in your lifestyle to remain more grounded? Getting grounded and staying grounded is pretty simple, if you practice self-awareness and mindfulness. The nasty side effect of practicing these things, however, is you continually have to own your thoughts, feelings, and actions. YOU are responsible for what takes ownership of your head and comes out of your mouth, not the person who is inconveniently thwarting your plans. Can you hang? If not, I suggest skipping to the more woo-woo suggestions, buying pretty rocks, and blaming others. For those of us who want to step into our real power—as opposed to the emotional ego-driven kind—this list will help.
- Take care of your physical and mental health. This means acknowledging your feelings and illnesses, as well as taking proper action. If you have a cold, rest and drink lots of fluids. If you are depressed or anxious, take some time to calm yourself and get to the root of it. Write in a journal. Hang out with people and pets that make you feel connected, rather than guarded or like you need to put on a show.
- Avoid overanalyzing and manipulating every facet of your life. It’s exhausting and unnecessary. It also leaves you open to more manipulative spells, as well as drains the people around you. Not every event in your life deserves 30 text messages to 350 of your closest friends. There are some things you just have to accept as-is. Others DO NOT always have to behave according to your little plan. The world won’t spin off its axis if you don’t get what you want, so chill and learn a little acceptance.
- Prioritize real work over busy work. The average person fills their day, life, space, and relationships with so much extraneous fluff. Why? Does it make you feel more productive? Is it ever enough? If you feel an overwhelming sense of guilt that you can’t do enough or be enough to everyone around you, this might be a sign your priorities are a bit out of whack. We’ll get to this in more detail when I cover intention-setting.
- Practice boundaries. What if you have never seen or had healthy boundaries in your life? My advice is to start with revamping the emotional boundaries you have with self and others. After you do that, other types of boundaries seem to fall into place. Having crappy boundaries is not necessarily a sign that you’re crazy or defective, just like a car that needs a tune up is not a lemon. You can find an emotional boundary starter kit here: http://psychcentral.com/lib/10-way-to-build-and-preserve-better-boundaries/
- Meditate daily. Nothing helps spiritual fitness like getting in tune with your own energies. Meditation helps control anxiety, promotes mindfulness, helps increase focus, and regulates the stress response. There are many ways to do it, so keep exploring.
Meditation videos to get you started. This is a short list of meditation resources I enjoy and have used with a huge degree of success.
Brain Sync with Kelly Howell:
I’m going to get into the actual visualizations for grounding in the next post, but this is probably a good place to stop for now. Get used to meditating and being in a more grounded state before we continue.